Ever met a person who has remained fixated to one place for the entire life? As in, never moved from the place since the day of birth.
Of course No.
Ever came across a song that you kept playing on loop for years? You know the way we get hooked on a chartbuster and keep playing it on an endless loop, until we move on to a new one out there. So ya, ever got stuck to one song for your whole life?
Ever held on to something with the thought that you would never let it go, and remained true to that thought? Imagine all the things that you ever touched in your life – all those objects, all those people – where are they now? Still in touch?
No I guess.
None of the above is possible. One cannot be fixated to one place forever. One cannot go on with the same song forever. And, one cannot hold on to something forever. I remember a childhood incident when I boarded a train with my Mom and brother, and somehow Dad couldn’t make it to that bogie when the train started moving..and I cried like hell worrying that I am going to lose my Dad..but I had no clue that he got onto the moving train from a different bogie. And when he joined us back, I held on to him tightly never wanting to leave. But then I couldn’t hold him back forever and was forced to let him go one day. I wonder what would have happened to every other thing that I ever touched – those school bags, the bicycle, those friends, those notebooks and diaries, those clothes, those buses and ricks, the bikes, those houses that I stayed in, those chairs that I sat on, the cell phones, the gadgets, those grounds, those trees, and what not. Some are still around me, some might still be in use by others, some might have decayed and must be resting in peace in a junkyard, and some would have probably embraced nothingness. Just gone from the world. Like my Dad.
Well, the point I am trying to make here is how we are constantly changing with absolutely no control, howsoever much we try. Our tastes change, priorities change, equations change, and with every change – we as a person also change. With this POV, when we look at everything else in life, maybe we won’t feel bad about anything. For instance –
- Someone flakes out on you. (maybe you are no longer on this person’s priority list even though you are still important to the person. It has got nothing to do with your likeability, but is more about their current priority. It’s like he/she is stuck with a new chartbuster song even though the earlier song is still likeable.)
- Someone is not in alignment with you leading to anger, frustration, arguments, betrayal, infidelity and so on (maybe it’s time for you to evolve or for the equation to dissolve, both of which are perfectly in sync with the laws of Universe)
- Someone dies (well, it’s a reminder that you can’t hold on to anything and it’s better that you appreciate things while they last and be grateful for the experience)
There could be many more such events that have the potential to disorient us, but as long as we remember that WE are constantly changing and along with us THEY are also constantly changing and it is these changes that are defining our lives, we are good. Almost good!!