People need to know when to stop, when to not overdo it, and when to just restrain for the sake of long-term gains. This applies to everything – but for now let’s take the case of love and the kind of obsession it usually is accompanied with.
When you are too involved with someone and your love for the person reaches the borders of obsession, you tend to do things that can make the other person feel claustrophobic as you are all over them. You are with them whole day, you are in every conversation, you are constantly chatting or messaging, you are following them on social media – you just want every bit of their time. And this might seem pretty normal to you.
Well, it’s definitely not normal when someone becomes the center of your world and you just exist for that person. You are putting yourself at the periphery. You are diminishing yourself. Your happiness is in the hands of the other. Why? Why should YOU not be the source of your happiness? Why should you be so insecure about yourself that somebody else is required to complete you?
People need to contemplate. People need to end the chaos in their minds. Any kind of relationship should make people strong, not weak or dependent. Only then would people be able to value themselves. And only then will they be able to truly value others in their lives. Valuing the other person means respecting his/her space more than your need of them. That’s when I guess relationships would become soulful and everlasting, because respect for each other would have replaced the greed for each other. There would be no excess of you, no excess of them, no excess of nothing…just limited amount of everything.